Here’s my beautiful family (from a couple years ago). This is one of my favorite spring photos because we are all genuinely happy and have just come off a beach vacation. As I grow older, I realize how much I depend on each of these wonderful humans to help me feel whole and provide me with purpose.
What completely surprises me?
Hard question, and I’ll go deeply personal on this one. I discovered a couple years ago that I was my own worst enemy. All of the limitations that I thought were based around money or risk tolerance or physical appearance, and on and on, were all stories that I was telling myself. It was not because I could share examples of actual occurrences to back up my beliefs, it was because I was making up stories to match my beliefs. I went through a year long coaching program that helped me realize that a lot of individuals deal with this same thing. Many people have an inner critic that gets in the way of success and happiness. It took concerted effort, through reading and exercises to discover that it wasn’t the external factors that were bringing me down or limiting me. It was ME!!! I am consistently surprised at how many of us struggle with this and haven’t realized it.
Pie Chart of my Life
I use the 5 Elements of Well Being for my personal pie chart. As I read through the sections of the chart think they all hold equal value. I don’t see career as work, I see it as doing what fulfills you. I don’t see Financial as making a lot of money, just enough to reduce real stress around it (ask: what is real financial stress?).
Career Wellbeing: How you occupy your time/liking what you do each day
Social Wellbeing: Relationships and love in your life
Financial Wellbeing: Managing your economic life to reduce stress and increase security
Physical Wellbeing: Good health and enough energy to get things done on a daily basis
Community Wellbeing: Engagement and involvement in the area where you live